The five stages of grief are:

  • denial: the loss is hard to face and the person is trying to shut out the magnitude of their situation, and begin to develop a false, preferable reality.
  • anger: ‘how can this happen to me?’; ‘who is to blame?’. the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy.
  • bargaining: hoping to undo or avoid a cause of grief, the individual seeks to negotiate a compromise. it rarely provides a sustainable solution.
  • depression: the idea of living becomes pointless; the individual may spend much of the time crying and sullen, to disconnect from things in an attempt to avoid further trauma. they feel sadness, regret, fear and uncertainty.
  • acceptance: coming to terms with the inevitable future; it typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual and a stable mindset.

Kübler-Ross model

listening while writing: Alexi Murdoch – All Of My Days